About Us

The Co-Active model allows coaches to consciously transform a client’s fear of the unknown into a curiosity about what’s possible.

What We Do

Murray and Ben are Life Coaches trained by The Coaches Training Institute (CTI), the largest and oldest coaching school in the world, and certified by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Active in the LGBTQ community in Ottawa, Canada, we have been partners for over 36 years. TransForming Connections reflects our shared passion for building community, and supporting individuals in consciously creating their lives and reaching for what they feel passionate about.

We train clients to be conscious in balancing the “being” and the “doing,” where people know that who we are is as important as what we do. This work helps individuals and organizations into both higher achievement and deeper connection and fulfillment. Transformational change is our business. In support of helping clients realize a fulfilling life, we offer coaching face-to-face, on the phone or on Skype.

Our work with groups includes facilitating Action Learning Groups on a wide variety of issues.  We also offer a suite of workshops for the Gender Diverse community including:

  1. Transition – whatever that means for you – issues for trans* individuals
  2. Awareness and Engagement Strategies for SOFFAs (Significant Others, Family, Friends and Allies) of gender diverse individuals.
  3. Who am I? Questioning, looking for answers and information for individuals beginning to explore issues of gender and identity.

Contact us by email: info@transformingconnections.ca

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Co-Active Coaching

Coaches Training Institute (CTI), based in California, is the oldest and largest coach training organization in the world. CTI has trained over 50,000 coaches all over the world and has trained employees in more than half of the Fortune 100 companies. CTI’s Co-Active Coach Training Program is widely recognized as the most rigorous coach training and certification program in the industry.

Based on the Co-Active Model, coaching begins by holding the client as naturally creative, resourceful and whole, and completely capable of finding their own answers to whatever challenges they face. The job of a Co-Active Coach is to ask powerful questions, listen and empower to elicit the skills and creativity a client already possesses, rather than instruct or advise. The Co-Active Model balances self-awareness, agility with relationships, and courageous action to create an environment where individuals can be deeply fulfilled, connected to others and successful in what matters most to them. The “Co” in Co-Active suggests relationship, connection, intimacy and collaboration. Thus, the “Co” in us is curious, listens deeply, hears nuance, holds space for others, intuits and nurtures. The “Active” in Co-Active stands for power, direction, action and manifestation. So, the “Active” in us is courageous, has clarity and conviction, takes charge and achieves goals.

Co-Active Coaching will generally focus on one or more of three main areas in a client’s life: fulfillment, balance, and being fully present/mindful in your life. Coaching differs from mentoring, counselling, therapy, etc. by focusing on where the client is now, where they want to go/who they want to be, jointly developing plans and holding clients accountable for action moving towards their goals. The past, “why and how” of your current circumstances are less important, from a coaching perspective, than consciously choosing a new path. Coaches ask questions and challenge the client to find their own answers and new ways of being based on their own values, preferences and perspectives.